How To Deal With Parenting Stress
You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little older than they were today. This day is a gift. Just breathe, notice, study their faces and little feet. Relish the charms of the present. Enjoy today, it will be over before you know it.
Parenting stress is a normal part of parenting experience. When you have a child, you suddenly become responsible for another person's life, and on top of that, many parents juggle taking care of their kids with a career and a marriage as well. It's no easy task. The truth is you can't completely eliminate parenting stress from your life. The key is doing your best to minimise it and finding a way to cope with it when it does pop up. These are some tips to help decrease parenting stress.
Make Time for Yourself
If you are feeling overwhelmed with stress, just take a break for yourself. Just a coffee time or spa time will help parents to relax their mind. It is actually healthy and more beneficial for you and your child to have some time apart. Don't underestimate such a short break, it's enough to make parents feel better.
Increase Quality Time for Family
Find ways to do enjoyable activities with your family. Unfortunately, this message sometimes gets lost in today’s atmosphere of academic competition and strategically chosen extracurricular activities. Simply spending time with them, running around at a park, doing something around the house is immensely valuable. Kids who are used to doing enjoyable things with their parents are more likely to open up about their lives, fears, and challenges as they grow.
Establish a Support System
Everyone needs help at some point. Don’t be shy to seek the help you need. Be proactive in arranging to have extra help. For example, you might employ a cleaner once a week to clean your house, so that you don’t have to stress while you tighten up for child care. Another support could be from your spouse. Taking care of a child is not only a mother’s job, but it is also a father’s job. It would be great if you have a “take-turn” arrangement in your family. The wife can enjoy some me-time or catch-up with a friend while your spouse is there to take care of the kids. Likewise, the husband can have quality time with the kids. This support system is helpful to help you cope with life’s challenges.
Seek Professional Help
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, seek professional help from a psychologist or licensed mental health professional. Sometimes unforeseen events or sudden changes in lifestyle, death or natural disaster can cause stress for parents and children too.
Just for the record darling, not all positive change feels positive in the beginning. - S C Lourie
There will be so many times when you feel you've failed, but in the eyes, heart and mind of your child, you're a super parent. Don't let today's stressful moments to turn you down - take a break, seek help, and beautiful days await ahead.